April 30, 2004

• Me First

  
  

  Whenever I see people with this mentality, I feel I should do something to correct their misconception and alter their course in life.  I see the ‘me first’ attitude as a terribly flawed way to live life.  I feel sorry for those with whom these people interact and I feel sorry for the ones acting from within this perspective as well.

  
  

  I’ve been ‘labeled’ (for an interesting aside to my entry, you should stop by an entry discussing the issue of labeling; see lovingmy40s) and my label has often been something like ‘pleaser’ or I’ve been told in the church realm that I ‘have a servant heart’ and my *love language is Gift Giving or Acts of Service so both mean I enjoy doing things that make others feel good… and this makes me feel good.

  
  

  It’s been my experience though, that there are a number of people ‘out there’ that couldn’t care a smidgeon less about pleasing me or doing anything for me or serving me.  Hell no!  It’s their little world and all in it is for their own pleasure, screw the other person, even the other person they supposedly love.  So just keep pleasing and serving and doing the nice things for them, me first is their motto.

  
  

  Now, I wish to relate this to the legalities and maybe try to get to the bottom of some laws that are in place or that might need to be in place, with this thought in mind.

  
  

  If someone came up to me and said “I want your credit card to use for what I am buying since I’m broke. Give it to me.’  I’d think they were nuts!  Wouldn’t you?  Stealing is wrong!  No one should be able to do it and get away with it.  No, there are laws to correct their erring ways.

  
  

  If a person nabbed a child to force them into sex because they were prone to pedophilia and stated simply, ” I enjoy sex with children, so I’m going to keep doing this.  It’s my body so what I do with it is fine.” at this point at least (and I know it can change at any point in time when an activist group rises up to challenge the reason it is no longer wrong), anyone I know would think this to be someone needing committed so they could no longer harm little children and they’d rightly think that this person needed help or punishment.

  
  

  Killing people is a crime, punishable in some states under some circumstances with death under the current rule of law.  It’s always been considered a breech of the law to take another’s life… unless that life is that of an unborn child.

  
  

  I may ruffle feathers here, but a march took place on the same day as the Walk for Life that has been going on in our area for years now, so I feel compelled to address this.  I have to say I am not nor have I ever been a proponent of abortion.  I do feel there are times when a mother’s life might be endangered, then there could be just cause in allowing the baby inside her to be taken and if it doesn’t live, well… You see, I can’t even finish the statement really, even though I honestly feel some circumstances might warrent a mom be considered first in order to keep her here for the children she already has counting on her, if in fact, the pregnancy would mean she would die.  I just have a really difficult time seeing the side of it where a woman gets into a situation where she allows the process to take place that is known to cause a baby to be conceived and then decides it’s her life that would be ruined so the baby’s life has to end.

  
  

  Now I know there have been arguments from the pro choice arena that made a case that the growing, developing fetus inside that womb was not yet ‘a life’ and there was some acceptance of this within the circles of those who wanted to make their money providing women with ‘the service’ of terminating this unwanted little bundle of joy.  There is now though a feeling among those same people, that even if it is a life, it’s the woman’s right to end it.  Take a look at these quotes from the article I reference below with a link:

  
  

  
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  

  “Don’t Tell Me What to Do
  The Words That Are Unraveling Our Society

  
  

  BreakPoint with Charles Colson

  
  

  April 30, 2004

  
  

  “I think abortion is killing a life. [But] the person who is pregnant should decide whether to do it or not.”

  
  

  Those are the words of Estrella Flores, an immigrant from Ecuador, who attended the so-called “March for Women’s Lives,” held here in Washington, D.C., this past Sunday. Ms. Flores and thirty-four other immigrants from her Brooklyn neighborhood were bused to the march by the National Latina Institute for Reproductive Health, one of the march organizers. They were among the reported 500,000 who marched in the pro-choice rally.”

  
  

  and a quote later in the commentary:

  
  

  “What we are seeing, of course, is the logical consequences of the desire for personal autonomy in an era of moral relativism. People can say with a perfectly straight face and without a twinge of conscience, “Yeah, it is wrong. It is murder. But nobody is going to tell me I can’t do it.””

  
  

  Please note before commenting or taking on my beliefs in regard to abortion, I am not hoping for a debate on abortion here.  Most of us have our opinions pretty well set on this and the debate can be ugly and is rarely productive.  Rather, I hope to get some feed back on the worldview mentioned that seems so prevailent these days.  The one that makes people feel they can do whatever they feel is right for them, even at the expense of others.  People not wanting to be told they can’t or that they must do … whatever.  Please don’t make this a platform for your abortion rights verses right to life tenets.  Maybe another day, but here, today, just give how you preceive an overall view of rights in our culture and the belief that prevades and states ‘it’s all relative.’  Maybe answer a question for me.  Where next?  What else should be OK even though there may be great sacrifices on the part of someone else for it to be OK?  How do we relate to what is right or wrong and on what do we base these ideals?

  
  

   

  
  

  *love languages link to Gary Chapman’s book about this topic

  
  

  ** link to Breakpoint, Dr. Charles Colsen commentary on this subject  http://www.pfm.org/BPtemplate.cfm?Section=BreakPoint_Home&Template=/ContentManagement/ContentDisplay.cfm&ContentID=12334

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